When Can You Start Dating As A Single Parent?
Statistically second marriages have a lesser chance of surviving a good marriage, than first time marriage which only have a 50% chance. Don’t believe statistics. You are unique. You can be, do or have anything you desire. Stay aligned with your intuition.
If you are a single parent, ready to experience love and a healthy relationship some good after divorce advice may be to prepare yourself with complete clarity for the spouse you are seeking. I can teach you processes to do this.
If you have children of divorce still living at home with you, be even more prepared for some fall out. Your children love you unconditionally, however, having been emotionally challenged with divorced parents they will have specific ideas of their own as to who they believe may be “right” for you.
As illustrated in my book “Single Parents Secrets to Effective Communication” you will be made well aware of the importance I stress upon effective communication. As a single parent preparing to date, this is a topic to which I believe you should include your children. It could be argued that they are not ready for this conversation, but that being said, if they are not emotionally ready then why would you be prepared to jeopardize your relationship with your children if they have not yet healed from the effects of divorce?
Being open and honest with your kids, thereby teaching them the importance of effective communication with you, allow your kids to participate in “designing” your perfect partner. Work together on writing down the qualities that are important as a partner. What are your needs in a partner? What are your wants, but possibly be negotiable qualities that you expect? Ask your children the same question. Spend significant time getting very specific on designing this perfect partner. Visualize the physical traits, the mannerisms, the actions. Make categories and rate the importance such as: job, income, outdoor activities, interests, hobbies, family relationships, whatever you can think of that you find essential or the things that delight and intrigue you. List the traits you will not tolerate, or that aggravate you even in the smallest way (cause it’ll get big one day).
Once you, and your children are crystal clear on the perfect date and you feel comfortable and relaxed about beginning the process of dating, than and only then should you consider going out. Trust that having done this process you WILL find the precise perfect partner at the exact right moment – the universe works in miraculous ways bringing to you that which is what you want.
I understand the loneliness of raising children after divorce. Single parenting is a huge responsibility and often over whelming. However, beginning a healthy relationship that will be the perfect fit with the family you have is something to be considered carefully, and only when you are emotionally feeling ready. Having gone through a divorce I am sure you understand the effects that divorce plays on everyone. Make your next relationship a great relationship. Attract the life you want, that you and your children truly desire to be happy, healthy and successful.
To gain more clarity and to be held accountable in staying focused on your actions, hire me, as a life coach using the law of attraction to bring you and your children focus, clarity and a perfect future.
Opt-in for a free consultation and meditation, and I will send you a form to learn what my coaching mission statement is, and how we may get started in designing a life that you create, exactly how you want.