How to live happier after divorce
July 5, 2010 by Wendy MacKay
Filed under Healing After Divorce, Inspirational heartfelt life coaching, Parenting
Life lessons suck some times, but later in life when we reflect on a change in our life we usually realize we are better off having learned the lesson. I am here to help you, after divorce, to learn faster and move on happier for the experience.
1. What emotional feelings are you having, right now?
Do you feel that weight in the pit of your stomach, as though everything is doom and gloom, that life is tough and you don’t expect it to get better?
OR
2. Do you feel like “I got through that and I am excited to move forward now”?
Chances are you likely feel like #1, but would rather feel like #2. It is your choice, although you may not believe it and may need help moving forward, it is your choice as to what when, how and why you live your life.
The sooner you take ownership of this, and embrace it with a positive feeling, the sooner you can and will move forward living happier. Yes, life can throw some curve balls and sometimes it feels like too many at one time, but you will get past this.
Acknowledge your grief, anger, despair from the loss of your marriage. Give yourself some time to reflect, but don’t allow this life experience to steal away any more energy than that! What purpose is served through giving in to the negative thoughts? What value is added to your life if you should continue grieving? Who, but you, suffers from allowing your self to stay in resistance of living happier?
Divorce is never something we plan when we are in love and get married. Depending on the reasons for your divorce will depend on the effects of the divorce. The effects can be very different for everyone. What you do after divorce also depends on you.
I make my share of mistakes in life. I made plenty after my parents’ divorce, and then through out the following years, in marriage, and after my divorce. Do I regret my mistakes? Only if they cause pain to others, but as for me, mistakes are what make me stronger and smarter. I didn’t believe in myself when I was young. I didn’t understand the law of attraction and how positive thoughts create positive actions. I did the best with what I knew at the time, and I moved forward to learn everything I could to get myself out of the situation I was in. I learned the lessons I needed to learn, and I continue learning every day.
The difference between then and now, is how I have control over my own emotions. I make deliberate choices, taking deliberate action to obtain deliberate results. If I feel unsure, undecided, or uninformed, I take the necessary action to become sure, decisive, and informed. I have confidence, where I once was insecure. I make mistakes, and I learn from my mistakes, then I carry on.
To heal after divorce, you must make the deliberate choice to take the deliberate action to do, be or have what it is you desire. If you aren’t sure what that is, then take the deliberate actions to find out.
I have:
Experienced many life challenges: child of divorce, single parenting, business owner, entrepreneur,
Taken many personal development courses: Dale Carnegie, personal development in college, numerous communication courses, nutrition, holistic care, independent consultant for women’s clothing line, public speaking, first aid, special needs care, hospice care, senior care, mental health care, life skills and more.
Law of Attraction Life Coaching
Business Coaching
and discovered my life purpose in helping others’ to discover their passion for life.
Through all of this, with an intuitive and empathetic desire to empower others I coach those who are ready to commit them selves for a higher purpose, to live with happiness and joy, and to be deliberate creators.
If, and when you are willing to make that commitment, and after reading my articles, you feel you can trust me in supporting you to move forward on your life journey, I would like to talk with you. Opt-in for a free consultation and we will discuss where you are at now, and where you would like to be.
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when you are ready.


