Surviving Divorce

Whether you have recently gone through a divorce, or if for some time you have been a single parent raising your children alone the emptiness can feel over whelming.  Friends and family may be there for you but the real connection of a soul mate who shares your viewpoint, can be there quietly for comfort and intimacy, or generates the laughter and purpose for living is a desire I believe we all strive for.

It is the one-on-one human connection, the bond in a relationship that allows us to be who we are in the moment, completely accepted is what we yearn for.

If you are feeling alone you are likely feeling frustrated, depressed, maybe angry and desolate.  This is not the path you are meant to live.  Life is to be lived with happiness and joy.

As a person, as an adult, as a single parent if you are alone, working in a career to make ends meet, raising your children and being involved with their activities, maintaining a home and heaven knows what else, then you are more than likely leaving your own best needs unattended.

Don’t forget who you are.  Don’t leave yourself in the dust.  Don’t dismiss your needs.  Your happiness is important!  Your happiness will create energy in your life that will be reciprocated in your childrens’ lives.  If you aren’t happy, if you are living in a negative vibration, everything and everybody around you feels that and is connected to it.  Therefor serving your best interests, serves the ones you love.

If you are feeling lonely begin taking action doing the things that have brought you happiness in the past.  Listen to music, dance and play with your kids, get out and do things you enjoy.  No excuses.  If you don’t feel you can afford to, then find alternatives that don’t cost money.  If you don’t want to leave your children, find a friend and exchange babysitting or trade services.  It may not be easy at first, but as you shift your perspective and look for the good and not the bad you will slowly begin to see the light.

If you are lonely, depressed, angry, or bitter, do you think you will attract the relationship you would like to have with someone else?  Become the person you want to meet.  Take some time and list the qualities you seek in a partner.  Do you possess those qualities?

You are who you attract.

Make a very specific detailed list of qualities you admire and would like to attract.  Discover where people that fit your list hang out.  Where do they go?  What do they do?  Become the mirror of the person you desire and you will begin to attract like-minded people.

Do yourself a favor, do your children a favor, do your family a favor and discover your happiness.  When you are happy the people around you will become happier.

For more information, or personal one-on-one coaching to work through this process check out my coaching programs or contact me at wendy@divorcerenovator.com